Grounded Confidence


Matthew 16:13-17

“Who do you say that I am?” – Jesus

Let’s try an experiment in curiosity. If Jesus approached you and asked, “Who do you say that I am?” how would you respond?

Perhaps you’d say, “Jesus is the Son of God. The Messiah. The chosen one.”

“Who do you say that I am?”

Light of the world. My savior and friend.

“Who do you say that I am?”

Emmanuel. God with us.

“Who do you say that I am?”

The Alpha and Omega.

“Who do you say that I am?” Jesus asks.

The bread of life.

The good shepherd.

The resurrection and the life.

The way, the truth, and the life.

The true vine.

Who do you say that I am?

This time answer it in your own words. Who is Jesus to you?

It’s about practicing curiosity. Be reminded, “Curiosity is an act of vulnerability and courage.”2

Throughout the past four weeks, you’ve been exploring many of the skills needed to rumble with vulnerability. This week, we’re uniting rumbling with vulnerability, curiosity, and practice into what is called grounded confidence.

Stay curious today and throughout the week. And remember, God is with you.


How would you respond if Jesus asked you, “Who do you say that I am?” Stay curious and answer that as many times as you can. Then, answer it again.


Practice curiosity today. Ask questions with love. Explore the unknown and get curious about your impulses.


Jesus, you are the light of the world, the alpha and omega, the Great I AM. When I consider all the ways you meet me where I am and love me for who I am, I am humbled. Thank you for the wonder, awe, and simplicity of your abiding presence…Especially when I’m rumbling with vulnerability with you and others. Amen.


Use a notebook to record your responses. Share your celebrations in the comments below.

Consider your thoughts, feelings and actions from today. Together, what do your thoughts, feelings, and actions tell you about who Jesus is to you?

Extra Thoughts

If you haven’t taken a moment to review the “Overview of It Takes Courage” please do so. You’ll find a few tips that will help you start this journey.

Grounded Confidence Necessitates Practice


Matthew 18:1-5

Questions are one of the surprises that can appear as we read the scriptures. Questions are a part of our faith.

Jesus asks the disciples questions. Jesus asks crowds questions. Jesus even speaks to the people who are wanting to put him to death in a questioning tone. And the disciples also ask Jesus questions.

The passage today, Jesus offers his response to the question, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?”

I can see the disciples sitting on the edge of their seats waiting for Jesus to look at them. Instead, Jesus invites a child into his midst.

And the disciples are dumbfounded.

The disciples are confused, “Become like a child, Jesus?! We’ve spent our whole lives growing up! What in the world are you talking about? Have you lost your mind?”

(If you’ve never rumbled with vulnerability with Jesus, I recognize that last statement may read a bit like blasphemy. After all, how could Jesus lose His mind?)

That’s why we need rumble tools. Before I share a few tools, let me remind you of the journey you’ve been on with Jesus and courage.

You named your call to courage and explored what ordinary courage is all about (week 1). Then, you learned the definition of vulnerability and how following Jesus takes courage (week 2). You explored the difference between armored and daring discipleship (week 3) and learned about the empathy skills and your emotions (week 4).

Now, let’s add a tool to your toolbox. (See below) These rumble starters are intended to help you lean into vulnerability and stay curious – even when conversations start to get messy.

I imagine the disciples and Jesus seated on the floor eating dinner that night and one of them says, “Jesus, help me understand…when you invited us to become like children, what does that mean? What does it look like? How can we do that?”

Jesus, laughing, might have said, “Do I need to go over this again? I will. I can. I’m not asking you to transport back in time. Stop thinking literally. I’m asking you to have the curiosity, compassion, joy, and vulnerability of a child.”

“But, Jesus, there are laws we need to follow. How can we NOT be literal?” Matthew interjects.

“That’s a whole different conversation,” Jesus offers.

Then Jesus continues, “We’ll have plenty of time together to keep practicing the faith, learning a new way. For tonight, can we simply stay curious about what the LORD is doing in our midst?”

The twelve nod in agreement. They get it. Their nods are not a polite-go-with-the-crowd type affirmation. They are WITH Jesus. Just then, Matthew has to break the silence and says,

“Oh. Yes, Jesus. We can do that.”

Judas, “Sorry, Jesus. I didn’t mean to start a conversation so late. I misunderstood.”

“Thanks for clearing that up,” said James.

Their conversation turns to celebration about what the LORD is doing. They’re so curious to hear the stories of what is happening, their meal lasts late into the night.

All that’s left for Jesus to do is go off on his own and pray.


What would rumbling with vulnerability look like for you and Jesus? Refer to the rumble starters below.


Use the rumble starters to begin a conversation with Jesus or another person. Here are a few examples to help you get started:

Jesus, I’m wondering…How does your love multiply more when it is shared?

Jesus, help me understand…What happened to my dog when she died?

Walk me through, what can I do to help our friend who is hurting/has cancer/going through a divorce?

I’m wondering…What do I say to my neighbor who is moving?


Jesus, thank you for receiving my questions. I am grateful you hold the space for curiosity and wonder. Guide me as I seek to be still enough to hear you through others and bold enough to respond. Amen.


Use a notebook to record your responses. Share your celebrations in the comments below.

What rumble starter did you use today? If you didn’t use one, it’s OK. Reflect on your conversations and consider where a rumble starter may have helped you stay curious. You’ll find the Rumble Starters below.


Rumble Starters

Add these rumble starters1 to your toolkit.

When you recognize there’s a need to have a tough conversation, ask yourself which statement can help you get started.

When you’re ready to show up with your heart open to have an honest, faithful conversation, use these rumble starters to remain curious and present.

Finally, hold these rumble starters close throughout the conversation. They’ll help you stay curious in the midst of your conversation.

The story I’m making up is…

I’m curious about…

Tell me more…

That’s not my experience…

I’m wondering…

Help me understand…

Walk me through…

We’re both dug in. Tell me about your passion around this.

Tell me why this doesn’t fit/work for you.

I’m working from these assumptions, what about you?

What problem are we trying to solve?

What other questions can you ask to stay curious?

Extra Thoughts

If you haven’t taken a moment to review the “Overview of It Takes Courage” please do so. You’ll find a few tips that will help you start this journey.

Are you a curious disciple?


Acts 17:19-21

Imagine hearing the good news of Jesus for the first time. You’ve heard about Jesus, born in Bethlehem to Mary and Joseph. But you’re also hearing people talk about Jesus as the Son of God. Those two “identities” don’t seem to make logical sense. You find yourself thinking, “Wait. What? How can this be? (Yes, Jesus’ mom, Mary, asked the same thing. Have a look at Luke 1:34.)

Imagine trying to wrap your head around the reality of Jesus’ humanity and divinity for the first time. Perhaps you remember your own journey trying to grapple with this reality. You had to get curious.

Here’s the thing: faith necessitates curiosity.

Someone shares something with you about Jesus. From the morsel of information they shared, you get curious. Perhaps a conversation unfolds something like this:

Wait, people were jailed for sharing their faith? Yes.

And crowds followed Jesus wherever he went? Yes.

And people wanted to kill him? Yes, and they did.

But…how does a dead guy become the Savior?


So they resuscitated Jesus? Well, not exactly. Resurrection is new life.

However that conversation may unfold, you’ve learned something that may not quite add up when you think logically. But the presence, the power, and the purpose of Jesus are pointing to something beyond logic. There is only one thing you CAN do. Get curious.

Grounded confidence takes learning the skills of rumbling with vulnerability, getting curious and practice. Today, practice curiosity.


What is one thing you’d love to talk to Jesus about? Go ahead…have that conversation. Talk to Jesus in prayer.


Today, get curious. Ask questions of the people you interact with today. Remember, practicing curiosity is not an interrogation. Speak with grace as you get curious.


Jesus, thank you for receiving my questions with grace. Thank you for reminding me that your power is not diminished by my curiosity. I offer myself to you today as one who is amazed, humbled, and grateful for your abiding presence in the midst of my never-ending questions. Amen.


Use a notebook to record your responses. Share your celebrations in the comments below.

What did you do today to practice curiosity with others? With Jesus? What will you do differently tomorrow?

Extra Thoughts

If you haven’t taken a moment to review the “Overview of It Takes Courage” please do so. You’ll find a few tips that will help you start this journey.



Luke 11:1-4

The disciples want to learn to pray from their Master, Jesus. The prayer we know as the Lord’s Prayer is the prayer Jesus teaches the disciples to pray.

While the Lord’s Prayer is a familiar prayer to many, at one time you had to learn it. You stumbled over the words. You wondered if it was trespasses or debts.

You may have even prayed it out loud in a Roman Catholic context and realized their tradition does not include “for thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen.” Yes, I’m speaking from experience. Of all the times and places it could have happened – this protestant pastor was attending a Roman Catholic funeral mass. It was another context to practice, stay curious, and receive the grace of the people around me.

Just like me, you practice the faith.

The more you practice the faith, the more you learn about Jesus and ourselves. The more you learn, the more curious you get. The more curious you get, the more you’ll need to practice rumbling with vulnerability. And the more you practice rumbling with vulnerability, the more courageous you become.

That’s the journey of a courageous disciple.

There’s one more thing. You never graduate from practice. Ask any professional athlete what they still spend time focusing upon each day. They’ll tell you the fundamental skills of their sport and basic physical & mental training.

Each of these is an example of why we practice prayer. It’s also why we practice following Jesus. Yes, you guessed it, you’ll also need to practice rumbling with vulnerability and being a courageous disciple.

You’ll mess it up. When you do, dust off your knees, get back up and return to the arena. You are a courageous disciple on a journey with Jesus.



What spiritual discipline are you willing to use to explore practice rumbling with vulnerability? Here are a few spiritual disciplines you might consider: Daily prayer. Daily reading the scriptures. Serving with people living in poverty. Tithing. Caring for the sick. Accountability with a small group.


Practice a spiritual discipline today.


Lord Jesus, I confess there are times I take practicing my faith for granted. There are times, I speak a prayer from memory with little attention to your presence in my life. Forgive me, I pray, and help me to grow as a disciple who seeks to become more like you. Amen.


Use a notebook to record your responses. Share your celebrations in the comments below.

What spiritual discipline did you practice today? Where did you see Jesus today?

Extra Thoughts

If you haven’t taken a moment to review the “Overview of It Takes Courage” please do so. You’ll find a few tips that will help you start this journey.

Celebrate Your Call to Courage


Matthew 2:19-23

When I consider Joseph’s life and legacy, I see a man who stepped into the arena called life. He rumbled with the vulnerability to be subjected to the scrutiny of the Law with faithful obedience. Joseph learned the skill of integration. Tomorrow, you’ll have one more opportunity to celebrate your thoughts, feelings, and actions from this week. But, today, I want you to return to your call to courage.

Consider, like Joseph, what you’ve been hearing from God throughout the past five weeks. Reflect on your thinking. What are you thinking about being a courageous disciple? How is God inviting you to practice the faith of a courageous disciple?

Your call to courage may not have appeared directly related to your faith. However, as you’ve learned on this journey, integrating your thoughts, feelings and actions are the hallmarks of a wholehearted disciple.

As you continue to grow as a person of courage, may Joseph’s faithful example of listening, rumbling with vulnerability, and practicing the faith be a reminder to you that God is with you – today, tomorrow, and the next day.


What skill, insight, or learning will fuel your curiosity to be a courageous disciple in the days and weeks to come?


Put a post-it note on your refrigerator or bathroom mirror with the reminder to stay curious about your thoughts, feelings, and actions as you seek to follow Jesus.


Lord Jesus, I praise you for walking with me as I seek to become more like you. Help me to remain curious about my emotions, thoughts, and feelings in the days and weeks to come as I continue this journey of becoming a courageous disciple. Amen.


Use a notebook to record your responses. Share your celebrations in the comments below.

What thought, feeling, and action did you take today to practice being a curious, courageous disciple?

Extra Thoughts

If you haven’t taken a moment to review the “Overview of It Takes Courage” please do so. You’ll find a few tips that will help you start this journey.

Wholehearted Disciple

Each Friday we’ll pause to consider the previous five days, integrating what we’re learning and how we’re seeing Jesus with three questions. As you consider the six myths of vulnerability and how the scripture passages brought these myths to light, respond to the following questions:


What are you thinking as a result of what you read, reflected and responded to? Specifically, what are you thinking about vulnerability?


What are you thinking as a result of what you read, reflected and responded to each day? Specifically, what are you thinking about being curious and grounded confidence?


What are you doing as a result of what you read, reflected and responded to each day? Specifically, what are you doing about being curious and grounded confidence?

Where is there overlap in your answers? Wholehearted disciples practice uniting what they think, feel, and do. If you’re thoughts, actions, and feelings are not in alignment with one another, keep practicing! You’re on a journey of following Jesus.

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  • Who or what are you trusting?
  • For whom or what are you grateful?
  • Who or what is inspiring you?
  • How are you practicing faith?


Good and gracious God, thank you for a mind to think, emotions to feel, and hands and feet to propel me to act. Guide me in all I say, do, and feel so others may witness your grace. In the name Jesus I pray, Amen.

Extra Thoughts

If you haven’t taken a moment to review the “Overview of It Takes Courage” please do so. You’ll find a few tips that will help you start this journey.

Day 7 of each week is a “Grace Day.” We invite you to pray the prayer provided and use today to rest and review any days that you may have missed.


Almighty and everlasting God, thank you for the journey. Each day and each week as I pause to celebrate your presence in my life, I am humbled.

Forgive me when I’ve fallen short. Grant me the courage that I need to continue practicing rumbling with vulnerability.

Surround our community with the fortitude to continue stacking trust and vulnerability.

Through your abiding presence, remind me to continue becoming a curious, courageous disciple. Then, help me to use my gifts in our surrounding community to share your love with others. Amen.


Take an opportunity to review any of the days you missed.

Day 1

Day 2

Day 3

Day 4

Day 5

Day 6


Final Thoughts

Thank you for your faithfulness!

The journey to becoming a courageous disciple is filled with joy and frustration and everything in between.

Thanks for staying curious and practicing courage.

YOU are among the brave and brokenhearted.

Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted

by Brené Brown

There is no greater threat to the critics

and cynics and fearmongers

Than those of us who are willing to fall

Because we have learned how to rise.

With skinned knees and bruised hearts;

We choose owning our stories of struggle,

Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us.

When we run from struggle, we are never free.

So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye.

We will not be characters in our stories.

Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.

We are the authors of our lives.

We write our own daring endings.

We craft love from heartbreak,

Compassion from shame,

Grace from disappointment,

Courage from failure.

Showing up is our power.

Story is our way home.

Truth is our song.

We are the brave and brokenhearted.

We are rising strong.