Wow. We have come to the end of September. Where has the year gone? Over the past nine months, you have moved forward in your leadership by adapting to unexpected changes and developing new relationships. You have navigated a pandemic and established different patterns. From my perspective, you have learned to lead in surprisingly new ways.
Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn
In his book, Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn, John Maxwell, playing off the quote, “Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose,” points out that we learn from our losses. He writes that if we apply what we learn in the midst of our losses to the situations and circumstances in which we lead, we will be much closer to reaching our goals. I’m guessing you have learned a lot over the past nine to eighteen months.
Learning is one of the key values of leadership. Effective leaders are learning leaders. Learning is as much a part of your life as eating. Leaders who are learners improve the environment for everyone around them. Learning is key to improvement.
What have you been learning?
So, what have you been learning over the past nine months? As I have been listening, I have heard you say you have learned:
You said, “I need to learn how to…” and you learned what you needed to move forward with worship, bible study, virtual gatherings, etc. You learned to approach routine encounters in fundamentally different ways.
You have experimented with different ways of living out the mission by engaging a coach and/or peers to provide feedback regarding what you have learned.
To become a more effective leader
You have been determined to learn useful insights by reflecting on what worked well, what didn’t so well, and what might work better next time.
I know you have learned much more than what I have listed above. But from my perspective, you have learned some significant patterns for effective leadership. I am grateful for you and for what you are learning. You were created to lead for this time.
What Have I Learned?
Over the past nine months, I have learned some things as well. I have learned:
Effective Christ-centered leaders become part of the fabric of the community
To be the leader needed for today, you must be intimately involved in the life of the community. You know the assets as well as he needs. You know the marginalized as well the influential people by name. You are recognized and known by people in the places you show up. (For help in becoming the fabric of the community, check out 7 Missional Questions).
It takes courage to follow Jesus
If you assume I should have learned this early in my ministry, you are correct. But I think it takes more courage today than in my earlier years. In the culture in which we live, “you can safely assume you have created God in your own image when it turns out that God hates all the same people you do” (Anne Lamott). It takes courage to show up in the places Jesus leads and to love the people Jesus loves. I saw a sign recently that read, “I love you. You’re probably thinking, ‘You don’t even know me.’ But if people can hate for no reason. I can love.” When you invite Jesus into your life, he tends to bring all his friends with him.
It matters where you start
I have known this for a long time, but it seems more applicable today.
You might think of it this way, the starting place is not whether someone or some issue is progressive or evangelical, liberal or conservative, socialist or capitalist. To start with a political stance is to argue your political stance. Starting with this, does my action love my neighbor, look out for his or her interests more than my own, and produce the fruit of the Spirit? It matters where you start. I am learning that when we figure out that God is more concerned with loving creation than judging it, we will then be part of the transformation of our churches, communities, and the world. As Jesus followers, we start with Jesus.
Effective Leaders are Learning Leaders
Just like you, I have learned more than I have listed. The point is learning leaders are effective leaders. Learning leaders model for others what they are learning and invite others into learning as well.
I want you to join me in an experiment for the month of October. I have been reflecting on one way you and I, as leaders, can model God’s love for those entrusted to our care as well as our communities. This is an experiment in courageous leadership. Remember, who you are is how you lead.
Here is what I want you to do. Whether you are in an urban church, suburban church, or a rural church, get in your mind one of the persons you encounter at an intersection holding a sign.
The sign usually says something like, “Homeless. Need Help. Hungry. God Bless you!” or “Homeless and hungry vet. Anything will help.” Get the face of the person in your mind. Regardless of what you feel or think, God loves that person as much as God loves you. So, this month, as a child of God, try something other than passing by another child of God.
Do one of the following: (Just try one for the month)
- Pray asking God how you can best share God’s love with the person
- Prepare a sandwich and/or some fruit and hand it them
- Give them something to drink. Something warm on a cold day, something cold on a hot day
- Better yet, park your car, get out and introduce yourself to the person, and listen as he/she introduces themselves to you.
- When you get to know the person by name, take food to them on a daily basis.
When you have done one of the above, give God thanks for loving you in and through the person at the intersection. I promise your action of care and compassion will transform your life and make you a more courageous leader. Who you are is how you lead.
Sometimes You Learn
Sometimes you win and sometimes you learn. Let me know how you are doing with the experiment. I’ll check back with you. May what you learn assist you in becoming the leader you are created to be.
And remember, who you are is how you lead.